If you recognise someone as having real authority over you, you recognise that they are able to do things that you can’t. A child asking a parent for a lift. A worker asking their line manager to authorise a large payment. A defendant asking for a judge or jury to acquit them. If you recognise someone as having real authority over you, you accept that it is up to them to decide whether to grant your request or not. What happens when the parent, the line manager, or the judge says, ‘no’? Well, that’s their call. And it is up to the person who recognises their authority to reconcile themselves with that.